As you and your spouse split up custody of your children, you realize that your time with them will be limited. Half of the time, they're going to live with your ex. You will need to make those days that you do get with them really count.
How do you do it? Take a proactive approach. Commit to making the most of every hour and every day. Think outside of the box. Remember that spending time with your child is more than a responsibility. Below are a few things you can do to bond with them quickly.
- Get outside and explore. It's about more than just getting away from the television. These shared experiences are exciting and unique. You're making memories.
- Teach your children new skills. Find out what they enjoy and help them develop. You can teach them how to ride bikes, play the piano, throw a baseball, play video games, go swimming or anything else you enjoy together. You'll love watching them learn and grow.
- Talk about your own childhood. Tell them about the funny things you did and the adventures you had. This helps them see you in a different light -- more than a stern parent -- and they'll connect with you.
- Go on a road trip. It doesn't have to be long. Just a day trip is enough to explore and see more of the world. You may have to clear this with your ex, depending on your divorce agreement, but it's a good way to do something new and fun.
It can be helpful to think about your goals as you draft that parenting agreement. As noted, it can impact how you spend your time with the kids. Make sure you know your rights and how to create an agreement that helps you bond with your children.
Source: iMom, "8 Great Ways to Bond with Your Child," accessed April 06, 2018